Why does sadness feel good

This is nothing new although unusual in society flooded with antidepressant taking people. Question is : Why do they want to be happy? Hapiness is gone once you realize your mortality. On the contrary, realising our mortality often makes people realise that every moment is precious, therefore even the smallest things, like breathing, smelling, and seeing, waking up in the morning, bring them joy.

Life is a gift, when you know how precious it is. Perspective and a change of heart changes. It is a choice though. Could this possibly mean that we are not raising children well enough by not giving them the emotional regularity skills they need to be happy? Are we not teaching them what happiness is? And why would a person reinforce those negative feels if they have the emotional regulatory skills they need to be happy.

How would one go about changing their focus? I seem to just be filled with questions. I think depression is only normal if its a temporary feeling of depression that can be self regulated, thus allowing a person to feel more then just depression all the time. One of the reasons that I choose to be low is as a sort of self preservation response. Like when some flowers are threatened, their petals will close for a time.

This is my safeguard against having to move from a good to a low place again when threatened. As my petals reopen, I feel humble. Well, so what would be a good way to fix these choices? I mean, what i could do, for example? Well put article. It would be better if solutions were included too. Like the guy up there is saying, what to do next? Just my thoughts. Thusly a way to avoid being anxious or fearful.

The more depressing stimuli is already in a state which renders no further possibility where a positive stimuli has the possibility of going in many mental directions. This could tax a fragile hormonal system. Too much expectation. Fear is a journey, a terrible journey. But, sorrow is at least an arriving. Perhaps there was a component of disillusionment that also takes place when depression moves in, accounting for the shift in world view.

So just pull yourself up by your bootstraps. You can choose evidently to not be. Get out of your head. Stop moping. Fix yourself. I say that to myself every day. E-v-e-r-y day. Why would you say that to yourself? There is an entrance to depression, an event or occurance, that tells your Self to feel depressed.

Therefore, please know that there is an equally strong opposing potential. That is the simple yet very effective strategy perhaps it is a coping skill? I have learned. Choose to change your mind. Think outside of the box of depression into which you have somehow chosen to place yourself. You may never be able to fix other people, but you can willfully and beautifully choose to fix yourself.

Nobody else can. Choose to be the best and do the best that you can. Neaely all the people thag ive known said that being sad is a choice but why would sadness not be a choice and happiness be one….. Emotions are NOT controllable. Happiness is not a choice and neither is sadness. You obviously have never been depressed, why are you here? Wonderful, amazing.

As humans, we don't like change. People who struggle with depression and sadness are in that dark place so much it almost becomes like a home. We relish the feeling of sameness and the twisted comfort it brings.

Sometimes we feel we deserve to be sad. We cannot wait to just wallow and let out our frustrations. Sadness is weirdly addictive. There is something addictive about feeling sad! It is a very strange thing. Think about all the people who enjoy watching sad movies and crying. There is certainly something about it that we enjoy but it has no benefit, so why do we do it? I know that when I start to feel sad, it's like I want to justify it. So I start thinking of why I am sad.

Often there won't be any real reason, and that in itself can make me sadder! I feel sad because I have no reason and it just turns into a spiral. I want my sadness to be real and objective because otherwise I am just being sad for no reason. Also it can be become a bit of an identity, I am the sad guy. I have all this sadness, my life is so hard, nobody knows the struggles I go through. I find myself looking at other people, hoping that they will reach out to me and understand my sadness.

But in reality I keep myself away from people because I feel like they can never understand it. So it's a catch 22, I want people to help, but I hide away from them because I feel like they don't understand.

So sadness is quite addictive and it leads to a downward spiral. I think recognizing this is what is happening makes it much easier to snap out of. You can almost laugh at yourself when you catch yourself doing this. For deep sadness maybe it takes some more work but a lot of sadness can be very easily let go of when we realize what we are doing is totally pointless and silly.

Then we can be free! Anonymous February 1st, am. Because by enjoying being sad we are embracing being sad, we are mindful of our state, we are having compassion for ourselves and by not fighting sadness, we can move on to become present to other states as they emerge in our experience. I think you could be the type of person who needs to fully experience the emotion you're going through, so you want to give due time to being sad.

You may not see being sad as a concretely negative thing that needs to be escaped as soon as possible, but rather simply a different emotional state. We're often conditioned to think of it as something negative, but it doesn't have to be. Sadness, like happiness or angry, just signifies a type of response to a stimulus. It's okay to enjoy being sad, even though it is often misunderstood by others. The act of thinking about a happy memory makes us simultaneously sad to see it go. Feeling bad yet?

Because I am. Or thinking about that day in the park with your ex-boyfriend when it felt like only you two existed. Those moments of appreciation combined with heartbreak that empty our insides, but also fill us up with emotion. The reminiscing we are doing almost feels selfish, and that greed feels oddly rewarding. Problem-solving strategies can be really helpful in overcoming some issues.

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